A Mothers Guilt

Being a mommy is difficult. So many obligations. So many people who rely on us. Yet we're somehow expected to take care of ourselves as well. Which can be nearly impossible when what we need might hinder the rest of the family's needs. So we resort to pushing our own well-being aside and continue sacrificing ourselves in order to be all we can be for our loved ones. 

Most mommies I know allow themselves to drown in guilt in some part of their lives. How many of us have needs that we feel we're unable to fulfill as it will interfere with the flow of the household. We sit quietly on the sidelines and watch and wait for who might seem to need help and do so at the drop of a hat.

I am fortunate that I am blessed to stay home with my children. Although, often I feel like pulling my own hair out, I most certain prefer raising my own children. I know that no one else can love and care for my children as well as I can. I have worked at numerous times in my life and for various reasons, I have always felt so guilt about it. Also I absolutely hate having to hear from people who look after my children complain about them, and make them sound worse than what they are. So for now being at home is ideal for me. 

I have many friends who work outside of the home. Most of them do it due to not having any other option. So they are forced to go that route. I know that many of them would prefer being at home. There are many though, who simply do it to get out of the house and have some adult interaction. Nothing wrong with that either. I applaud them for knowing what they need and going for it. 

I have lost my mommy recently and have not even had time to mourn her loss. As I am constantly busy with family and house responsibilities. So feel like I need to push how I am feel aside and get on with life. Also I have decided to start exercising again. That hasn't been going well either... 

It seems like the household doesn't see me as a person I'm their live-in robot. I must and will simply keep going. Even the days when I feel like I am seriously heading for a crash, they won't hesitate to ask. I don't ask anyone for help, so I don't understand why they assume I should be fine. 

Mommies don't have the luxury of simply turning in at the end of the evening. We must lock up, tidy up, prepare for the next day, etc. Never ending cycle. Not even holidays are for rest periods for us. They usually mean extra work at alternate location. 

We really need to sort this out, fellow mommies. Need to make better decisions. After all, they do say, "Happy wife, happy life". So when are we going to step up and speak up? We really can't wait for the children to be out of the house before we start living our own lives. We need to make that start now!

Of course is doesn't mean that we regret any part of our lives. After all we do it because we love the people in our lives. Everything we do is out of love for them. Yet why should love be completely self-sacrificial? Life is about balance. So let's us stand up and find our own balance!

Don't forget to enjoy every moment!

BE HAPPY, BLESSED AND FULFILLED!